Monday, February 9, 2009
About L-O-V-E
About L-O-V-E
L-O-V-E. Simple to spell, but I am sure it must be pretty hard to achieve.
Seeing as our faith and ministry is built upon love (Love for God, love for People), therefore I think Pastor Kong's message is really important. Well, you must be thinking, important mehz? I also not like XXXX and XXXX married, or on the way to walk the aisle, no big deal what.
The catch is, there is another side to this message, and it applies to all.
Let's start with the #1 need for the sisters: Affection.
Believe me. I think our beloved sisters do not just want to hear words of praise and appreciation from their husband, boyfriends. They would love to hear from their family members, friends. More so important for the people who are supposed to be part of your destiny in God, i.e. your cell group members, your spiritual family.
As brothers (and sisters of course), i think sometimes we can be a little bit more sensitive to our (other) beloved sisters. Help them arrange tables and chairs during fellowship, help them wash up after cell group refreshments. And if you have sisters who have just did something to her hair, like change of style, colour, well say something nice.
Instead of " WAH! You burn your hair ahz?", say "wah!! Somebody cut hair sia~~ looks better lei"..
Instead of "Hey, you use curtain to make your new skirt right?", say "woowoo, this suits you wor".
But of course, do not lie!
If you think the change is not appropriate, you have to tell her. Tell her to help her. Do not say it directly, try something more indirect.
Instead of "why you wear this? My eyes bleeding liao!!", say "Hey, nice try, but perhaps you could try ... (insert some CONSTRUCTIVE suggestions).
AS brothers, this also shows our maturity, and I am sure the sisters will be grateful for a little more appreciation right?
(Do I hear an Amen from the sisters??)
But most importantly, do not be shy to help them out when they need it. Like for example, you have a sister who needs emotional help, but then you shun away because you are.. shy.... cummon la~~ what generation already? Your words of encouragement will be like gold to them (same to those words of appreciation), you will help them to pick themselves up to move on.
We must pick ourselves up and dust ourselves off! (Obama, 2009).
Ok.. i think i write too many essays liaoz..
Now looking at the #1 need for the brothers is errrrrrrr...*blussssshhhhh*
NONO... I am not asking the sisters to *CENSORED*, I am asking the brothers who do not have the license to *CENSORED* yet, to constantly pray for a strong mind, pray for the Lord to constantly cleanse our thoughts and strengthened our self control so that we do not think immoral thoughts.
HEY!! Nothing wrong thinking about *CENSORED*, afterall we are wired this way. The research that man thinks about sex 7 times a day does not just refer to the married men, it refers to brothers like you and me. But the Bible says that when we lust for others in our thoughts, we have committed adultery already. So we must constantly keep our thoughts in check, and when we DO stray, do not feel guilty, instead, Thank God for our sexuality, but pray for strength and protection of the mind and thoughts.
Ok.. this is turning into a manhood thingy, but then again, why not?
We are men by birth by male by choice,
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YESSS!!
Last point about needs unmet. I am sure many of us heard of this phrase "The Lord does not hear my prayers".
Now, we know that there is probably a fruit- basketful of reasons why God does not hear and answer your prayers, and finding these glitches and getting our lives right with God is of ultimate importance.
But what about the needs and prayers of our neighbours? When Pastor mentions needs unmet, what immediately came to mind is that many of us have needs to be met, but we also have needs to meet. We have people to pray for, people to bless and people to help.
Again, sensitivity.
We have to be sensitive to our neighbour's needs. And that is also one way which we can build love, intimacy (friendship style..) and unity within the cell group. BUT, not forgetting the people in the marketplace. So let us start to communicate more and try to help one another out.
Afterall, its economic recession, and this is the best time for us to shine in the marketplace.
WOOHOO~
Hope this helps~
Cya guys is PM.
Zhengguo a.k.a. Daogei
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